Given the amount of pop culture and media devoted to sex, it might seem like the facts are pretty clear. The proliferation of these myths leads not only to sexual dissatisfaction, but serious self-esteem issues. According to one study , more than 60 percent of women have faked an orgasm during intercourse or oral sex. Many of these women were motivated by fear of intimacy, insecurities about sexual functioning, or the desire to get sex over with. When popular culture typically portrays women achieving effortless, earth-shattering orgasms with every sexual encounter, many men and women are left with a poor understanding of the complexities of female sexuality. Here are seven facts about female orgasms that will improve your understanding of female sexuality. Only about 25 percent of women can achieve orgasm through intercourse alone; most need clitoral stimulation as well.
Pleasure and pain: the effect of (almost) having an orgasm on genital and nongenital sensitivity.
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What we believe about sexuality at menopause has a lot to do with our sexual expectations and experience. While it is a common misconception that sexual desire and activity inevitably decrease at menopause, this does not have to be true for you. At midlife, the challenge for most women is to be able to access that in-love feeling in ways other than looking to another person for fulfillment and gratification. In other words, if you think of sexual energy in the largest possible context — as life force, or Source energy — then it is easy to see that the health and vitality of our sexuality is inexorably linked to the health and vitality of our lives.
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AIM: To clarify the relationship between sexual arousal, orgasm, and sensitivity in a healthy female sample. METHODS: Twenty-six women privately masturbated to orgasm and almost to orgasm at two separate sessions, during which standardized pressure stimulation was applied to the glans clitoris, vulvar vestibule, and volar forearm at three testing times: i baseline; ii immediately following masturbation; and iii following a subsequent minute rest period. RESULTS: Pleasurableness ratings were higher on the glans clitoris than the vulvar vestibule, and at most testing times on the vulvar vestibule than the volar forearm; and at baseline and immediately after masturbation than 15 minutes later, mainly on the genital locations only. Pain thresholds were lower on the genital locations than the volar forearm, and immediately and 15 minutes after masturbation than at baseline.